Two pink lines

On February 1st, my wife peed on a little stick and my whole world started to change.  This is the story so far…

My wife and I started ‘not trying to prevent getting pregnant’ in November of 2008.  It was a good time to start the process because if she did get pregnant then she would be off for an entire school year and not have to leave partway through.  This would just make things easier on her and on her students.  We honestly thought we may have been pregnant the first unprotected month but it was a false alarm.  December was a bust as well.  It was about this time that we started to think that it wouldn’t happen for a while.  It takes many people from 6 months to a year to get pregnant.  We did not feel that we would be any different.  The positive result was a complete surprise.

We were trying to keep our trying quite.  We didn’t want to announce that we were baby-making.  We did arouse some suspicion.  Because she could become pregnant at any time, Tamara opted not to drink while we were trying.  She had recently been to an information session hosted through the school district on the effects of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS).  She learned that some studies show that alcohol can affect the fetus as soon 7 days after conception.  We didn’t want to take any unnecessary risks.  Unfortunately this meant she wasn’t drinking over Christmas.  My wife isn’t a big drinker but it is tradition to have a few over Christmas.  Both my mother and hers noticed that she was skipping out on the booze in her cranberry and ginger ale.

I was a little worried about how I was going to feel when it actually happened.  I always knew I wanted kids.  I have pretty much wanted to be a father (someday) a long as I can remember.  I was still worried that once I found out I might start thinking that I wasn’t ready or some other creeping feeling.  To date I have not felt any of those feelings.  I mean I am worried about the mechanics of everything.  I am worried about providing and being a good parent but I am not worried at all about being a parent.  I am just full of joy about it.  I have this feeling that whatever challenges come up, I can face them with my wife and we will overcome for us and our child.  I am so excited.  I have not once thought that we can’t handle it.  I know I am not truly ready.  No one is!  But I know that this is something I have wanted for a long time and I cannot wait to welcome this child into the world.

Finding out was fun.  My wife picked up a test that evening just because she was at the end of her cycle and thought she may as well check.  She did her business and then we went to shave my head.  She had almost forgotten she did the test when she walked into the bathroom.  She looked down and then called me over saying it was positive.  I thought she was pulling my leg, so I said no.  She said yes and then I saw her face.  I can normally tell when she is pulling my leg.  Her eyes told me she wasn’t.  Now we started to frantically trying to determine if we could have done the test wrong.  They say to check it after 2 minutes and it had been closer to 10.  So she started reading the box and I jumped onto the Internet trying to determine how valid the test was.  Our findings were that false negatives do happen but false positives are extremely rare.  Also, test results tend to stay valid for a few days.  Of course we still weren’t completely convinced so first thing the next morning Tamara tried another stick and this time we timed it to the second.  Again we saw two pink lines.

So that is the story so far.  Please stay tuned for further updates.  Also please leave comments about how you found out you were having a child.

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5 Responses

  1. Congratulations, my third child was a virus for a few weeks and when a test was taken as a precaution before hospital medication, I found out he was a beautiful little boy 🙂

  2. Congrats Mr.Nunes…that’s amazing…glad your boys are working well…

  3. To Geoff: It is a two part process, not only do I need to have the boys in tip top shape but my wife’s production line needs to be in order. It seems the factory is up and running

    To Fraggle: Although this is my first child it is my understanding that when children are born they tend to act like viruses as well. They cling on and drain you (or at least your wallet!) and it can take 18 to 30 years to shake it. I kid. I am very excited.

  4. Brad, you are awesome.
    I am so happy that Tamara has a husband like you.
    My experience was very different. The whole reaction from my ex, and his complete absence of true support, is too negative to write about. I will never do it again. No more babies for me.
    I am glad that Tamara will never feel what I did.
    Thanks Brad.

  5. Red, I cleaned up your mis-comments from the other post.

    I also want to say never say never. You never know what the future holds and it is my experience that as soon as you have a plan, God says ‘Naw’ and spins you in a whole new and exciting direction. Just keep an open mind. You never know…

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