Next stop, the rest of your life

Hello again great mass of readers. I know you have been waiting with baited breath for a new post. Anyway I want to talk about how the whole birth of my son went down. It was the most amazing thing to ever experience. Here is the basic timeline and what happened.

Oct. 12 @ 10:00 – We went to the hospital to have gel applied to help start labour. This does not put you into active labour like oxytocin does. This gel just helps the process get going if your body is ready. The doctor told us it normally peaks around 4-5 hours so if you feel it, come back in around 15:00 or 16:00. She also said that if we didn’t feel anything we should come back to get checked out around 18:00 or 18:30. After she finished the procedure we left the hospital.

Oct. 12 @ 11:00 – Headed out to lunch at Tims then went for an hour long walk along the Okanagan Lake front. Tam didn’t really feel much action. After the lake front we wandered around Wal-mart for about an hour.

Oct. 12 @ 15:00 – Headed home. Tam still didn’t really feel anything. She bounced on her ball for another hour or so. Still didn’t feel anything so we went for another walk. At this point we really didn’t feel like anything was going to happen.

Oct. 12 @ 17:30 – Had a nap.

Oct. 12 @ 18:30 – Went back to the hospital for our 18:30 check up. Tam still didn’t feel anything but they hooked her up to the non-stress test machine (NST) and it showed she was having very mild but regular contractions. She still couldn’t really feel them but they showed up on the monitor. The doctor wanted us to stay the night in case she did go into active labour. The doctor was concerned about Tam’s sugar levels going out of whack because she had gestational diabetes. We thought we were going to spend the night at the hospital and go home the next morning. We were told to go out, have some dinner, relax and be back by 22:00.

Oct. 12 @ 22:00 – Settled down at the hospital. Put a movie into the laptop and tried to get a little sleep. We were pretty bummed at this point because nothing seemed to be working.

Oct. 13 @ 24:00 – Tam starts to have some regular cramping. Contractions starting.

Oct. 13 @ 02:00 – Contractions in full swing. It is about now we realize baby is on his way.

Oct. 13 @ 04:00 – Tam has a shot of pain relief. She says it didn’t really help with the pain but it did help her relax and sort of snooze between contractions (which are about 90 seconds apart). I call the grandparents to let them know the process has started.

Oct. 13 @ 04:30 – Nana Mercer and my sister-in-law Sonia show up. Sonia is my helper in the delivery room. Tam’s is coping with the pain by using gas. The gas is modern laughing gas. Tam said that it didn’t really do much for pain but you have to breathe in a particular way for it to work. She said this really helped her focus on her breathing and helped her keep her mind off the pain.

Oct. 13 @ 06:30 – Grandma Nunes and Auntie Em roll in. They help establish Camp Babe’s Acommin in the hallway. Normally you are not allowed to wait on the maternity floor while there is a birth in progress but it just happened that we were the only ones in labour at the time so it wasn’t a big deal.

Oct. 13 @ 09:00 – Doctor comes in and breaks Tam’s water. Things get real painful and Tam is really for an epidural. The epi goes in at 09:30 and it wasn’t a moment too soon. Post water break contractions were extremely painful.

Oct. 13 @ 14:30 – Doctor comes back to check on Tam and she is fully dilated. We had been watching a movie and relaxing most of the afternoon just waiting for things to happen. Pops Mercer got a kick out of the fact we had time to watch a movie while in labour. We start pushing.

Oct. 13 @ 15:24 – Baby Nunes is born! It was totally amazing. My wife did such an amazing job through the whole process. It just blew me away how strong she was during the whole thing. The doctor really didn’t think she would have a natural birth but we proved her wrong! (The doctor was worried the baby would be too large to delver without a c-section). He was 8lbs 6oz and was 21 ¼ inches long. Because Tam didn’t push for very long and because he had pooped before coming out he had some mucus in his lungs so he didn’t cry much. He mostly kind of grunted.

Oct. 13 @ 16:00 – Camp Babe’s Acommin rushes into the room. Nana and Grandma rush in. The whole room is just buzzing with people. It is pretty amazing.

Oct. 13 @ 16:45 – Mom feeds for the first time. They get the hang of it pretty quick.

Oct. 13 @ 17:30 – Moved to post partum room. More Aunts, Uncles and friends show up. It is all pretty cool and everyone is pretty impressed.

Oct. 14 @ 10:00 – Mom and Dad survived the first night and also come up with a name. We say good morning to Benjamin Christopher!

Oct. 15 @ 12:00 – Ben comes home!

So that is the basic run down. I could go into much more detail but that is how the labour and birth basically went down. I cannot express how proud I am of my wife. She was totally amazing though the whole process. She was so brave and so focused. She never once said she was scared or worried. She was just all about finding her zone and staying focused.

I also want to say a huge thank you to Sonia for helping me out in the delivery room.  She allowed me to stay focused on my wife through the process and also made sure there was always some one with her.  I was able to get a bathroom and food break in once and a while.  She also did a great job of snapping Ben’s first photos.  Thank you so much for all your hard work and help.

We are settling in fairly comfortably and we are all getting used to each other. Every day things seem to get a little easier and we understand and learn a little more. There will be many more Ben related posts to come and I look forward to sharing my stories with the world.

Nunes/Gough Baby Pool

Nothing like mixing the birth of a new child and gambling!  Hey-oh!  But seriously it is very cool that my cousin and I are expecting child and we have the same due date (or rather she is expecting and my wife is).  Anyway our families put together a baby pool for guessing due dates.  Here are the complete standings:

Name Baby Nunes Baby Gough
Grandma Nunes Oct. 14 @ 0300 Oct. 17 @ 0900
Grandma Bain Oct. 10 @ 0500 Oct. 09 @ 0400
Grandpa Bain Oct. 12 @ 0923 Oct. 12 @ 0645
Grandpa Nunes Oct. 16 @ 0100 Oct. 17 @ 0500
Shelly & John T. Oct. 10 @ 1035 Oct. 10 @ 1300
Gary T. Oct. 11 @ 2230 Oct. 14 @ 0745
Dianne T. Oct. 20 @ 0645 Oct. 22 @ 2350
Auntie Lisa Oct. 07 @ 0230 Oct. 11 @ 0130
Auntie Emily Oct. 08 @ 0300 Oct. 12 @ 0300
Momma Leah Oct. 10 @ 1730 Sep. 30 @ 0400
Pappa Brad Oct. 07 @ 1800 Oct. 10 @ 0300
Pappa Ryan Oct. 12 @ 0800 Sep. 29 @ 2000
Gr. Grandpa T. Oct. 08 @ 0255 Oct. 06 @ 0255
Doris Oct. 11 @ 0415 Oct. 13 @ 0330
Jason Oct. 13 @ 1500 Oct. 14 @ 1600
Ray & Bean Oct. 12 @ 0600 Oct. 12 @ 1200
Uncle Scott Oct. 11 @ 2100 Oct. 02 @ 1100
Marci Oct. 08 @ 1000 Oct. 05 @ 1200
Amie Oct. 08 @ 0725 Oct. 07 @ 0655
R & M Sewell Oct. 16 @ 0135 Oct. 15 @ 0215
Eddie & Brain Murphy Oct. 11 @ 0526 Oct. 17 @ 2016
Anne & Tom Foltyn Oct. 14 @ 0425 Oct. 18 @ 0325
Dale & Chelsea Oct. 18 @ 0200 Oct. 18 @ 1526
Mamma Tamara Oct. 19 @ 1900 Oct. 20 @ 1300
Anutie Sonia Oct. 12 @ 2400 Oct. 14 @ 1601
Uncle Josh Oct. 15 @ 2400 Oct. 13 @ 0400
Nanna Mercer Oct. 09 @ 0228 Oct. 10 @ 1301
Pops Mercer Oct. 12 @ 0928 Oct. 16 @ 2400

The winner is the closest person to the date and time without going over.  For all other rules please contact my mother.  Good luck!

Edit (Oct. 6):  I have crossed out any guesses who do not qualify anymore.  We have a few off the list already.

Edit (Oct. 8):  A few more people have fallen off the list.  Also, due to internet chatter, I suspect we will have a winner on the Gough side soon!

Edit (Oct. 9):  Congrats to Leah and Ryan!  They had a baby girl around 1800 last evening.  I don’t have a name, exact time or weight but will post as soon as I know those details.  The unofficial results says Grandma Bain is the closest prediction.  Congrats to Grandma Bain and good luck to the Gough family!  Please send pictures soon!

Edit (Oct. 23):  Well the race has come to an end.  I guess mothers really do know best.  Congrats to the new Grandmothers.  May they spend their winnings wisely (on their new Grandkids!)  Keep checking back to my blog.  I will have a post up soon about the whole experience and my first few weeks as a father.

Vacation time

The times they are a changing.  I was without Internet for the last week because we were staying at my Grandfather-in-laws condo in New Westminster.  I thought that I would be able to leach Internet off of someone in the building or from one of the other 4 or 5 buildings near the block.  Not one person had an open Internet connection.  I remember the good old days when I could snatch Internet at almost all the bus stops along my route in Calgary.  I will have to remember next time to learn how to crack a Wi-Fi signal.  Anyway lets get back to the trip!

So Monday Tamara and I headed off to the coast.  The trip down went well.  We hit a little snow and slush along highway 3 but it wasn’t bad at all.  That evening we walked around New West a little and had dinner at the apartment.  I managed to get a few channels on the rabbit ears.

Very early on Tuesday morning (around 2am) my brother-in-law and his wife rolled into town.  Tuesday was very important because it was Tamara’s big freakin’ 3-oh!  After a short sleep we got up and headed to Stanley park to check out the aquarium.  It is odd how captivating fish can be.  I really enjoy going there.  There are all these kids running around and they are all so thrilled to be there.  The whole place is just very positive.  I do enjoy the irony that they serve fish and chips at the cafe.  From there we took a quick walk along Robson before heading to Moxie’s for a pre-game meal.  We then went to the hockey game.  This is the first time I have been to a Canucks game in GM place.  This was a great high energy game.  I really enjoyed it and I look forward to catching another game in the future.  A big thanks to Josh and Sonia for the tickets and for dinner.  Tamara really enjoyed her birthday.

We started off Wednesday with a trip out to see Tamara’s grandpa.  He is doing well and we hope to see again soon.  We said goodbye to Josh and Sonia and headed to the New West quay.  We thought we were crazy when we couldn’t find any shops.  We then saw a sign saying it was closed for renos.  We enjoyed a nice long walk along the boadwalk in rainy west coast weather.  It was  nice day.  That evening we drove out to Kitsalano to meet some friends for dinner.  Thanks for the meal Ben and Britney.  We will get you back next time you are in town.  That night we grabbed a DVD and headed back to the apartment.

On Thursdays we grabbed a day-long transit pass and made our way to Lonsdale quay via the sea-bus.  It is a cheap, fun trek.  I managed to find a few very nice teas.  From the quay we stopped back at Metrotown.  It is a grand monument to consumerism.  We got some frozen yogurt from an autonomous unit for mid mall snacking and did some people watching.  It is always fun watching people moving through the mall.  It attacks people from all walks of life.  After the mall we drove back to Vancouver for dinner with an old high-school friend of Tamara’s.  After that dinner we drove out to Langley to have another snack with Tamara’s cousin Dana.  We did a lot of catching up with friends and family this trip.  It was good.  After dinner number 2 we went to see the Watchmen on Imax.  Being a fan of the comic I really liked the movie.  Tamara enjoyed it but it was a little loud in some parts.

Friday we headed home.  On the way we saw Tam’s grandpa once more and then stopped in Aldergrove to see my grandpa and my aunt and uncle.  Thanks to Anutie Ann for lunch.

Tamara and I enjoyed our little trip very much.  It was very relaxing and we had lots of fun.  We had good times and shared good meals with friends and family.  Please post about any recent trips you have gone on.